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August, for many people writing dissertations, is the month of if-not-now-when?
Other responsibilities are on the horizon, but what can you do to make use of the time August offers you?  If you use the time you have now, you’ll very likely be controlling the space where you will be working and living later on.
1.  How [...]

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Dissertation writers, professional writers and editors, bloggers–we all fight the good fight against email.
Seth Godin, famous marketing blogger, asks, “Do you spend your day responding and reacting to incoming all day… until the list is empty? “  He says that unlike the days when he could sort his mail in minutes the “old-fashioned way,” he [...]

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If you put your energy around what you want, that’s what you’ll get.
One client told me that she had been ambivalent about all of the questions her dad had about her dissertation.  But she decided to make a positive out of the parental interest.  She saw that her dissertation could be a bridge in her [...]

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Writing a dissertation brings with it many hard choices.  Often those hard choices directly impact relationships. 
One dissertation client told his parents that he can’t talk about his dissertation with them—not when it’s going well and not when he’s stuck—because he feels that it opens him to too much scrutiny.
But he’s always ill at ease around [...]

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Several ABD’s have told me over the last few days about issues with parents, spouses, boyfriends or girlfriends, and even friends.
The boyfriend of one of my clients has made it clear that he thinks it’s taking far too long for her to finish her dissertation.  And the process drags on because she hesitates to work [...]

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Family and friends tend to give advice to ABD’s.  It’s usually well-meaning.  Sometimes it comes from personal experience and sometimes not. 
Rarely does it help.
What I often hear from my dissertation clients is how difficult it is for them to deal with family members’ over-investment in the dissertation process. 
Most ABD’s say that their family or others [...]

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