Even though you may have a stated intention of working on your dissertation and making steady progress, you do everything and anything to sabotage yourself. Could this be you?
If this sounds familiar, read on.
A dissertation client is having great trouble moving forward. Every week when we talk, there’s been another obstacle which has kept her [...]
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Do You Use the All-or-Nothing Distortion?
Posted in Smart Tips, academic, coaching, determination, discipline, dissertation coach, dissertation writing, fears, flow, getting started, gremlin, momentum, procrastination, re-start, reasons for not writing, restart writing, self-sabotage, writing, writing, dissertation, tagged ABD, acknowledging success, all-or-nothing distortion, distorting experience, flow, procrastination, self-sabotage on September 21, 2008 | No Comments »
3 Success Tips to Help You Engage with Your Writing
Posted in Charlie Rose, Smart Tips, You Tube, choice, coaching, creativity, determination, discipline, dissertation coach, dissertation writing, fears, focus, goals, hope, mental toughness, momentum, perseverance, planning, positive psychology, writing, tagged jumpstarting your writing, last resort, left brain, putting time in, resting the brain, right brain, scaring yourself into writing, threatening yourself on July 22, 2008 | No Comments »
Over the past week two different people, both of whom are approximately 32, seemed surprised that I had heard of the singing group Coldplay.
The frenetic marketing of Coldplay’s new record would make it hard not to have heard of them. To dig up a little more on Coldplay, I turned to YouTube. I found several [...]
What if Dissertation Writers Had the Focus of Tiger Woods?
Posted in academic, anxiety, brave, coaching, courage, determination, discipline, dissertation coach, dissertation writing, fears, focus, getting started, mental toughness, momentum, re-group, re-start, self-sabotage, struggling, top strengths, using your strengths, writing, writing, dissertation, tagged mental toughness, self-regulation, self-sabotage, flow on July 18, 2008 | No Comments »
When I’m in line at the grocery, I read the latest celeb magazines. If there’s an article about Tiger Woods, I’ll read about his wife and his yacht and, of course, his relationship with his father, but I’ve never been interested enough to take the time to see what are golf’s and Tiger Woods’s hold [...]
Hard Deadlines: Are You Being Squeezed Out of Your Doctoral Program?
Posted in Smart Tips, academic, advisor, coaching, deadline, dissertation advisors, dissertation coach, dissertation writing, fears, strategies, tagged finishing the dissertation, hard deadlines, working with advisor on June 8, 2008 | No Comments »
Is your university enforcing hard deadlines for finishing dissertations? Are you getting any signals from your university about what might be ahead for you? Has your advisor become more critical of your work?
Every day I talk with dissertation clients who are trying hard to finish their doctoral degree. This week several people sounded a similarly unsettling [...]
3 Strategies to Thwart Writer’s Flight and Emotional Eating
Posted in Lizard Brain, Smart Tips, academic, anxiety, brave, coaching, courage, determination, discipline, dissertation coach, fears, following through, mental toughness, perseverance, procrastination, self-deception, self-sabotage, top strengths, using your strengths, writing, writing, dissertation, tagged dissertation, dissertation coach, emotional eating, fear of failure, fear of success, feeling anxious, flee, making progress, procrastination, writing on March 9, 2008 | 4 Comments »
When my writing starts to come together, I am relieved, but I’m also anxious about what comes next.
My first response to those feelings of relief and a fluttering of anxiety almost always is to flee and to eat.
Be grateful if you don’t feel these urges. Or pat yourself on the back if once you would [...]
Feel the Anxiety and Keep the Writing Going
Posted in Lizard Brain, academic, anxiety, brave, coaching, courage, determination, dissertation coach, dissertation writing, fears, following through, mental toughness, perseverance, self-sabotage, writing, dissertation, tagged dissertation, dissertation coach, fear of failure, fear of success, feeling anxious, making progress, writing on March 1, 2008 | No Comments »
Feeling anxious is no picnic, but it’s pretty common among writers.
When I’ve been struggling with my writing and finally feel that the fog may be starting to lift, here’s what comes up for me:
1. I feel relief.
2. And I feel anxious.
I feel relief because once again I’ve made it through. And getting to that point [...]
How to Deal with Others Invested in Your Dissertation Process, Part III
Posted in Smart Tips, academic, boundaries, courage, criticism, demands, discipline, dissertation coach, dissertation writing, family, fears, goals, life, mental toughness, relationships, self-care, writing, writing, dissertation, tagged demands, dissertation, fears of scrutiny and criticism, focus on what you want, hard choices, parents, relationship, self-care, writing on February 24, 2008 | No Comments »
Writing a dissertation brings with it many hard choices. Often those hard choices directly impact relationships.
One dissertation client told his parents that he can’t talk about his dissertation with them—not when it’s going well and not when he’s stuck—because he feels that it opens him to too much scrutiny.
But he’s always ill at ease around [...]
