If you put your energy around what you want, that’s what you’ll get.
One client told me that she had been ambivalent about all of the questions her dad had about her dissertation. But she decided to make a positive out of the parental interest. She saw that her dissertation could be a bridge in her [...]
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To Keep Your Writing Going, Put Your Energy Around What You Want
Posted in Smart Tips, academic, boundaries, demands, dissertation coach, dissertation writing, family, momentum, relationships, self-care, take stock, writing, dissertation, tagged communication, demands, dissertation, focus on what you want, hard choices, keep the writing going, positive focus, reframing, relationships, self-care, writing on February 26, 2008 | No Comments »
How to Deal with Others Invested in Your Dissertation Process, Part III
Posted in Smart Tips, academic, boundaries, courage, criticism, demands, discipline, dissertation coach, dissertation writing, family, fears, goals, life, mental toughness, relationships, self-care, writing, writing, dissertation, tagged demands, dissertation, fears of scrutiny and criticism, focus on what you want, hard choices, parents, relationship, self-care, writing on February 24, 2008 | No Comments »
Writing a dissertation brings with it many hard choices. Often those hard choices directly impact relationships.
One dissertation client told his parents that he can’t talk about his dissertation with them—not when it’s going well and not when he’s stuck—because he feels that it opens him to too much scrutiny.
But he’s always ill at ease around [...]
4 Reasons to Keep Writing Even if You’re Not Sure You’re Going in the Right Direction
Posted in Smart Tips, academic, demands, discipline, dissertation advisors, dissertation coach, dissertation writing, distractions, following through, goals, hope, momentum, re-start, reasons for not writing, restart writing, showing up, strategies, tagged dissertation writing, establishing hope, finishing the dissertation, fixing the writing habit, momentemum, setting goals on February 4, 2008 | No Comments »
Dissertation writers occasionally come to an impasse, unsure of which way to go next. You’ve probably been in this position. You want to move forward, but it may seem prudent to wait—wait to see what your committee chair or mentor says, wait until you have a lot more time to read or go through your [...]
During Your Dissertation Daze, Bravely Isolate the Unimportant
Posted in academic, brave, choice, cleaning, coaching, commitment, courage, decluttering, demands, dissertation coach, dissertation writing, family, housecleaning, planning, self-care, teaching writing, time theft, tagged choose family, compartmentalize, cutting corners on teaching, decide what is important, dissertation writing, housekeeping chores, let go of the unimportant, speed clean on December 9, 2007 | No Comments »
When I was writing my dissertation, I tried my best to let go of all that was unimportant.
I always wanted more time to be with my kids and to do that I had to let go of all but the essential aspects of my teaching. I wasn’t perfect. Even though I tried to compartmentalize, class [...]
Sick Babies and Burdened Bosses Take Time Away from Your Diss; What to Do?
Posted in academic, choice, coaching, demands, determination, dissertation coach, dissertation writing, distractions, life, re-group, re-start, regrouping, resilience, resources, restart writing, self-care, time theft, writing, dissertation, tagged balancing babies and dissertations, demands from bosses and other superiors, demands on your time, managing dissertation writing time, time theft on November 11, 2007 | 2 Comments »
Last week three different dissertation coaching clients came to their calls with me frustrated.
One started the call by saying she felt “crappy.” Another was also clearly cranky.
What had happened? Each of them had had their writing time appropriated.
One client, the father of a 7-month-old, was exhausted as well as cranky. He had been up with [...]
